I was about half in love with her by the time we sat down. That’s the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty… you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are.
J. D. Salinger
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.
A. A. Milne
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and you may be surprised to discover that it is one of my favorite holidays. Not because I like receiving flowers and chocolates, but I like the buzz that it generates. Ever since grade school, when we passed out our hand-made cards to our crushes, I have always gotten excited at the prospect of grandiose gestures on a particular day of the year. This day is the day where you gather all your courage to tell that special someone how you really feel.
The first recorded association of Valentine’s Day with romantic love is in Parlement of Foules by Chaucer. The poem translates to:
“ For this was Saint Valentine’s Day,
when every bird cometh there to choose his mate.”
Chaucer wrote the poem to honor the first anniversary of the engagement of King Richard II of England to Anne of Bohemia, which took place on May 2, 1381. Readers assumed that Chaucer meant February 14th when he referenced Saint Valentine’s Day, though mid-February was unusual time for birds to mate in England.
I hear many people say that they don’t need a holiday to show their significant other how much they care. To that I say this: of course you do! Take it from someone who has always been in long-term relationships; it doesn’t matter how well the car drives, everyone needs a tune-up now and then.
Creativity is crucial, especially when you are dealing with someone who thinks that flowers are pretty but a waste of money( every plant that enters my home dies). The woman in your life will appreciate the thought you put into the details, more then the cost. One of my favorite V-day gifts was a big box filled with bags of Jelly Bellys(my favorite candy), movies that I had wanted for a long time, and some other amazingly thoughtful gifts. Maybe write her a love letter, or order a personalized candle, and select a scent that reflects her personality. Speaking of scents, there are places now that allow you to custom-make your own perfume, which is a nice way of showing a woman what smells remind you of her.
Ladies, it goes both ways. Men deserve creativity as well. If you go by the top ten list on askmen.com, it would suggest that all men are simple creatures, and just want simple things. I can tell you that if I bought my husband any of the things on that list, he would certainly not rate them as highly as the writer of the article did. Some of the old stand-byes are good: making him dinner, buying his favorite DVDs, or purchasing that latest tech device he has eye on. But consider putting a twist on these things, like giving him a coupon for a week of “picking what’s for dinner”, or a coupon for “ Sunday Funday”.
The bottom line is this: show the one you love just how much you do this Valentine’s Day, because moments are fleeting, so make the most of the present.
We loved with a love that was more than love.
Edgar Allan Poe